Part II of Singleness is a Gift


"Why do you look so down?" Allison asked her God daughter Kenya.
"Nana, I’m almost 30 and I’m still single. My biological clock is ticking; you know I want to have kids someday." Kenya replied, worry on her face, "If I don’t marry soon, I won’t be ABLE to have kids."
"Don’t worry sweetie, It will happen. Besides, you are still young. Look at me, I’m way past you in age, and I am still single. There is no way I’ll ever find love at almost 60."
"I always thought everyone should have a chance at love." Kenya sighed, "Why does it seem to pass the good people up? Men these days just ain’t worth anything. They don’t want love at all. I’ll never find a good one."
"That’s just the way life is sweetheart. There is nothing we can do about it."


Now that we realize that singleness is a gift we need to come to terms with some of the other underlying fears that we tend to envision as being 'too big for God'. These are issues that cause our trust and faith to be tested beyond measure, and normally, we fail miserably.

The biggest issue women face when it comes to waiting for our "God Sent" is TIME. In the back of every woman's mind is this humongous grandfather clock that constantly counts down the time from when we are in our 'prime' to when we deem ourselves as useless to mankind. From issues with having kids, to being older in age, to looking around and seeing no worthy choices, we allow our eyes to take over. So our thinking goes from trusting in God, to trusting our eyes, and instead of seeing more, we become blinded.

So as we get older we find ourselves rushing around like a headless chicken going for anything that’s male and allowing ourselves to put up with almost anything under the sun for the sake of the clock and fear of being alone. We tell ourselves that “it’s TIME for me to settle down,” or “It’s TIME for me to have children,” or my favorite “I have to do something; I don’t want to be old and alone”. Isn’t it amazing what people come up with when they forget about GOD?

The more we take our love life (or lack thereof) into our own hands, the less likely God is going to do anything in our favor in that area of our life. And then when we repeatedly get our heart broken by men who are far from God’s Best, we whine and complain about how there aren’t any good men out there. Well of course not, GOOD men are GODLY men and God isn’t going to give a GODLY man to someone who isn’t depending on Him to do it. If you aren’t depending on God to bring you a Godly man, what makes you think you are going to depend on Him throughout the relationship?

And as for the internal clock, do you remember how old Sarah was when God let her bare a child? You must remember that God’s perfect timing very seldom aligns with our own timing. We always have the “I want it NOW!” syndrome and through temper tantrums when we don’t get our way, which only shoves God's perfect timing for you back a few MORE days/weeks/months/years.

It is the same with age… whether 16 or 60…when it is in God’s perfect timing, He will bring your “God Sent”. The problem is that some of us take forever to turn to God, trust God and stop trying to find a man on our own. On the flip side, our Godly man might be taking longer to commit to God and turning away from his less than Godly ways. Remember that when you pray about those desires of your heart, that you leave it with God. Many of us lay it on the altar, pray about it, and then before God can move a finger, we have taken it back from him. All these things can make us like the Israelites, taking 40 years for God to give us someone we were meant to have in 4 years.

This doesn't just go for one who is looking for a mate, but with anything in our lives.

There is no TIME…like GOD TIME.

Dear Lord, we pray that you keep us in your timing, keeping our focus on You. We know that You have our best interests at heart. We pray for the patience to wait until we are ready by your standards and for the strength not to take our hearts into our own hands. AMEN.

Till Next Time

God Bless

Amanda of
Astria Legends

Comments (8)

On March 7, 2011 at 10:21 AM , Sue Runyon said...

Thanks so much, Amanda. I know we have a lot of singles on the CAST Team who can really use this encouragement. But waiting for God's time is a lesson we all need.

On March 7, 2011 at 11:44 AM , Art and Sew Forth said...

You sure have some great insight into this area. Very well written and encouraging words! Love the print, too!

On March 7, 2011 at 12:03 PM , myeuropeantouch said...

Fabulous...Amanda, well said... quitt looking on my own a long time ago...
Bless you...

On March 7, 2011 at 1:48 PM , SINCERITY said...

It is true that God can do anything and that many times we are the reason why our lives don't move ahead. But I also think that for many women the right man will never come because God's will for their lives is not to marry.

Remaining single is not a curse it is a gift as your title says. Sometimes remaining single happens not because we are disobedient but because we are obedient. God can do so much through a single who has devoted her life to serving him. It is not for everyone but it does happen.

Being afraid of become old and alone is not something to feel bad about. Everyone will eventually become old and alone anyway! Actually, being single is the natural state of being and in heaven we will be single again!

On March 7, 2011 at 2:52 PM , Sherri Ward said...

Learning to wait on God is something He has designed for us all, each in different circumstances. Remembering every day to be thankful and remembering how much He loves us helps the process.

On March 7, 2011 at 8:44 PM , pfd said...

Whether single or married this is a good reminder of trusting in God's timing. Thank you for your thoughtful post.

On March 8, 2011 at 8:38 AM , sammysgrammy said...

Awesome post Amanada

On March 12, 2011 at 12:35 AM , Angelic Emypress said...

Thanks. @Sincerity, I know what you mean... even though being married has been my greatest desire all my life, I know that being single is my destiny. It's hard but God is still awesome.

Thank you for your comments