Do find yourself comparing yourself to the pictures of the models while you’re shopping? Isn’t she just gorgeous? (...aside from the lack of modesty most of the time.) But isn’t her skin flawless? Her eyes so intensely alive? Her hair so beautiful with a healthy shine? Her clothes she just bought from {insert store here} the perfect match?

I’ve tried to be very careful about not comparing myself to the media, but I’ve found that I do it unconsciously!
This is what opened my eyes –

My husband just achieved a new job – videograpy and photography. He’s a videographer already, but he’s had to do some research to be a photographer. And what he’s learning about editing photos...! It’s nuts. I’ve watched several of his tutorials while he watched them. My husband now knows how to paint with lighting to intensify eyes, make noses smaller, and modify hair colors. He can make me a “natural” blonde without me ever dying my hair! He knows how to touch up colors of an outfit to make it match perfectly, to take out blemishes of the skin! He can even add makeup to a makeup-less model! What?! And I’ve been trying to compare myself to these women?! No wonder I haven’t been measuring up!

Now what? How do you fight this constant battle? Those thoughts and comparisons jump in your mind before you realize what’s happened! So, I went searching for weapons I could use in this battle. Here they are:

Look For What God Looks For
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.
~ 1 Samuel 16:7 (NIV)

A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.
~ Proverbs 31:10 (NIV)

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
~ 1 Peter 3:3-4 (NIV)

Guard Your Heart With His Truth
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
~ Proverbs 4:23

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
~ Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV)
His Truth Will Set You Free
To the Jews who had believed him, Jesus said, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”
~ John 8:31-32

Now go win that battle!

Emily of Redeeming Beauty

Comments (17)

On April 30, 2012 at 11:39 AM , First Christian Church said...


On April 30, 2012 at 12:46 PM , Prayer Notes by Cynthia said...

Amen! We will lose the battle, if we continue to compare ourselves to each other. The Lord created us and we should not dishonor His work by wanting to be someone else. This is a battle most women will need to constantly watch. But, with Christ, anything is possible! Loved this post! Blessings to all!

On April 30, 2012 at 1:12 PM , Cherished.Wife said...

"The Lord created us and we should not dishonor His work by wanting to be someone else." Well said, Cynthia! That is SO true!

Thanks for stopping by, FCC. I'm so glad this touched you this morning. :)

On April 30, 2012 at 2:07 PM , Julia Badgley said...

Very good. Thanks Emily!

On April 30, 2012 at 2:38 PM , ShadowCutter said...

Yeah there's a video that shows people doing a model's makeup and hair and then touching up the photo a lot.

On April 30, 2012 at 5:03 PM , Longing for Home said...

Thank you for lifting up the truth! I have been focusing on confronting the big and little lies that pop up in my thoughts - Philippians 4:8 whatever is truth, lovely, honorable, praiseworthy.......

On April 30, 2012 at 9:07 PM , Cherished.Wife said...

You're welcome Julia!

Shadow - Crazy, isn't it?!

Amen, Longing! And thanks for leaving the verse, it fits perfectly!

On April 30, 2012 at 11:04 PM , (Ri)Charmed said...

Good thoughts! I modeled when I was younger so I've always been very aware of how much of the final product is just manipulation. I know quite well how quickly beauty fades anyway. Isn't wonderful how people who are kind and generous and thoughtful become more and more beautiful to us though?

On May 1, 2012 at 12:01 AM , LittleElf said...

Wow, what a wonderful article, love it!! ^_^


On May 1, 2012 at 6:12 AM , MYSAVIOR said...

So true! It is what is in your heart that is your beauty.


On May 1, 2012 at 6:18 AM , bananaorangeapple said...

Awesome. Great verses to improve our self esteem.

On May 1, 2012 at 8:54 AM , Joyce Butler said...

So true. Comparison is the trap of the enemy which is easy to fall into.

On May 1, 2012 at 10:33 AM , The REAL EverSewSweet said...

Wonderful message. As a mom of a little girl, I worry about her being bombarded by messages of the world. I can only shield her with the Word.

On May 1, 2012 at 3:19 PM , Vivien said...

Praise God for His words. We can set our minds on things above,and not be shackled to the ways of the world, or our own thoughts. It is so true that "Man, looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart." ~ 1 Samuel 16:7.
"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised." Proverbs 31:30

Thanks Emily for sharing this. I will share the blog with my friends.

On May 1, 2012 at 10:18 PM , Cherished.Wife said...

Charmed- so true! Beauty definitely is on the inside!

Thank you, Elfie. Glad I was able to touch you today. :)

You're so right, Joyce.

EverSewSweet- I can't imagine being a mommy...I've only been married 2.5 years. It sounds like mommies and daddies need such wisdom to rear children!

You're welcome, Vivien. I'm so glad you're going to share it!

On May 2, 2012 at 8:12 AM , BonJeanCreations said...

I am seeking the gentle and quiet spirit, but, I know I have a long way to go. Thank you Emily!

On May 4, 2012 at 12:42 AM , Rhodes Creations said...

Great post! So glad you are standing in the gap for His truth and righteousness! Keep running the good race! Love, laura